Category: Writing

  • Food, Wine & Life Online

    Food, Wine & Life Online

    On Saturday afternoon, I had the pleasure of hosting 21 guests at the first in what will hopefully be a regular lunch and dinner series. Food, Wine & Life Online was a chance to bring people together for a beautiful meal and conversation.

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    The group consisted of small business owners, photographers, chefs, freelancers, designers, nurses, social workers, entrepreneurs, academics, and artists. In attendance was a woman who had only moved to Christchurch four months ago and others who’ve lived in Christchurch for most of their lives. We spent a few hours together, enjoying four vegan courses prepared by Flip and Yousef at Grater Goods paired with Greystone wines. The event was intimate and informative yet informal, the perfect size to get to speak to everyone and learn a bit more about who they are.

    I spoke a little bit about my experience moving to Christchurch four years ago, building a creative community, and why I think these types of gatherings are so important. Alissa talked us through the wines, winemaking process at Greystone, and how their wines are 100% certified organic and vegan (unlike many NZ wines that contain animal byproducts…) Flip spoke about her journey becoming a vegan and why she creates food that challenges our preconceived notions about plant-based food. You need to try their salmon lox bagel (which is actually carrot, not salmon) and KFT (tofu that could pass for the real thing!)

    If you want to read more about what inspired me to hold this event, I’ve written about it here. Otherwise, have a look through the photos taken by my dear friend, Nancy Zhou and leave me a comment if you’re interested in coming along to the next one. We’re looking at having it amongst the olive groves at the Greystone vineyard.

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    A big thank you to everyone who came along and supported this idea, to Nancy for taking these photos and Grater Goods and Greystone for providing the food and wine. I am immensely grateful for your love and support.

  • Why I Haven’t Been Updating My Blog

    Why I Haven’t Been Updating My Blog

    One of my New Year resolutions was to consistently update my blog, to share two or three posts per week. As you know, that’s not exactly what’s been happening…

    I recently shared an Instagram post about feeling uninspired and a bit blue. I’m not sure where it’s stemmed from, but I’ve been experiencing high levels of anxiety about my work. I know it’s part of the creative process to doubt and second-guess yourself. This has been true for me for as long as I can remember.

    Lately, whenever I sit down to an empty page or screen, I feel anxious and overwhelmed, unable to write truthfully and share valuable content. With a captive audience comes additional responsibility, to be honest and authentic. It’s much easier to share a photo of brunch or a beautiful dress than it is to talk about our shortcomings and issues, but we’ve all got them. For a very long time, I assumed that nobody wanted to hear about the real stuff. I’ve since learnt that we’re not able to truly connect with others unless we’re allowed to be our vulnerable, imperfect selves. We’ve all got hang ups and things we’re ashamed of, but that’s what make us human.

    If you’re going through something similar, whether it’s personal or work-related, I’ve jotted down a few things that have helped me deal with my anxiety and decision paralysis:

    Talk to someone
    Whether it’s your partner or a close friend, it really helps to talk through your negative thoughts.

    Be gentle with yourself
    I’ve written about this before, but we all need to be kinder to ourselves. If you have a tendency to talk down to yourself, stop and think, is this how I’d treat a child or a friend who’s unwell?

    Is it worth it?
    Is whatever you’re stressing about actually worth it? I’ve had a panic attack or two whilst on a boat. As much as I love sailing with Nick, I now know that if the waters are choppy, I need to be on shore.

    Don’t put on a front to impress others
    People often call me adaptable, which I used to think was a good thing. Being too flexible means that I’m constantly moulding myself to fit everyone else’s expectations. Not everyone is going to like you and not everyone is going to see the ways you add value. That’s okay.

    You’re not the only one experiencing anxiety
    Many people experience anxiety in all its shapes and forms. Reminding ourselves of that makes us feel less alone.

    So, how am I going to move forward (with this blog and my life)?
    Firstly, thank you for putting up with my inconsistent posting. I understand this is a job and keeping you guys in loop is part of that. I’ve given myself a few weeks of haphazard posting, but enough is enough. I spent most of Friday plotting out content calendars and re-evaluating where I want my content to go. Basically, I want to ensure it’s of value to you guys. So, please comment below and tell me what you want to read about.

    I’ll continue sharing the exciting, wonderful parts (because most of us read blogs to get inspired, right?) But, I’m going to start sharing some of the more difficult parts as well.

    As always, thanks for reading. x

    Photo by Jillian Miller Photography

     

  • 2016

    2016

    I debated how to title this entry for a solid five minutes, then re-considered this post altogether. I’ve felt this way for much of 2015 and I hope 2016 brings about some clarity.

    It’s been a confusing year with high highs and low lows. In many ways, I’ve aged a lot this year. I turned 27 two weeks ago and it was the first time I really felt like I was getting older. I gave up on ideas I’ve held for most of my life.

    I haven’t felt quite like myself since leaving Toronto and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss it everyday. However, big changes take time and it still feels like the right decision.

    2015 was full of new experiences both personally and professionally. I worked remotely, experienced new cities, and spent quality time with my loved ones. I blogged more regularly than ever before, found my niche in travel writing, and formed friendships and partnerships through both this blog and Instagram.

    While I rarely make resolutions anymore, I think the new year provides a blank slate. For me, it’s always been an important time for contemplation.

    Thank you for following along my small space on the internet, your support means more than you know. Now, let’s make 2016 a wonderful year!

  • In Transit: Boston

    In Transit: Boston

    In Transit: Boston

    She said, “I think I’ll go to Boston…I think I’ll start a new life, I think I’ll start it over where no one knows my name.”

    “Boston” by Augustana has been one of my most-listened to songs over the past decade. The opening piano chords are instantly recognizable. And the song, as a whole, slowly escalates in intensity, which makes for an excellent lyrical or contemporary dance combination. The lyrics are some of the most beautiful I’ve ever heard, and are extremely relatable to anyone who’s ever dreamt of getting away and starting over.

    I’ll soon be on my way to a city I’ve wanted to visit since I was young. This desire was amplified after meeting Nick (with his Irish roots), beginning my Boston Legal addiction, and drinking scotch. I’m glad I have waited to visit Boston as it’s a city I know I’ll appreciate tenfold now that I’m mature enough to soak in the vast history it has on offer. The home of over 50 universities, Boston is the most educated (and arguably, most picturesque) American city.

    Fortunately, my friend Molly compiled a list outlining how to make the most of a weekend trip to Boston. I’ll be visiting with my boyfriend and two sisters, so I’ve drafted up a point-form itinerary of a few of the things we’d like to do:

    Friday:

    Sportello for dinner
    Drink for a whiskey-based cocktail, and a toast to Denny Crane and Allan Shore.
    Walk around Boston Common
    Visit Faneuil Hall

    Saturday:

    Grab a cappuccino at Thinking Cup and stock up on Stumptown beans
    Check out the Isabella Gardener Museum and Boston Museum of Science
    Explore the Freedom Trail, starting at Boston Common (Bunker Hill, old North Church)
    Walk down Boylston Street and Newbury Street and check out Back Bay
    Stephanie’s on Newbury for dinner

    Sunday:

    Sample the sticky buns at Flour Bakery
    Explore Cambridge and take a tour of Harvard University
    Stop by the Coop, see the Harvard Club on Commonwealth Avenue (amazing Georgian architecture)
    Have lunch at Barley’s Burgers, scenes from Good Will Hunting and The Social Network were filmed there.
    Walk along the Charles River
    Visit La Burdick for the best chocolates in Boston

    Have you ever been to Boston? What are your must-sees?

  • Travel Wishlist

    Travel Wishlist

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    “If you’re twenty-five, physically fit, hungry to learn and be better, I urge you to travel – as far and wide as possible. Sleep on floors if you have to. Find out how other people live, eat, and cook. Learn from them wherever you go.”

    From a very young age, my parents instilled in me a love of travel and exploration. My sisters and I were enrolled in French Immersion from age five, and spent evenings and summers learning Ukrainian. While vacations to Hawaii and Mexico are a favourite among North Americans, my parents were far more eager to take us beyond what was comfortable. My most memorable travels include visiting the remote regions of Ukraine, where we connected with our cousin, Ljuba for the very first time, exploring the sacred (and relatively tourist-free, at that time) temples in Ubud, Bali, and navigating the poverty dynamics in a nation that was re-discovering itself post-apartheid. And so, as my 25th birthday approaches, I have been pouring over travel blogs, Pinterest, and friends’ travel photos. Here are my top travel picks for 2013/2014:

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    1. Bolivia

    A country unlike any other, Bolivia is a haven for adventurous travellers. With its arid deserts, tropical rainforests, snow-capped peaks, silver mines, and colourful inland lakes, there’s much more to this landlocked country than you’d ever expect! Not to mention, Yungas Road has been declared the world’s most dangerous road, a must for any daredevil!

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    2. Brazil (Rio de Janeiro and Sao Paolo)

    Rio is known for its stunning architecture, abundant museums, and delicious food. I’d also like to see the massive Cristo Redentor statue in person, and visit the multitude of beaches (there are 23 just in Rio!)

    I have a few friends who reside in the massive metropolis of São Paolo: my first RA at MSU is from Sãn Paolo, and four of my exchange friends are from Brazil. Latin Americans possess a loveliness and warmth that I’ve always tried to embody, the demeanour of my Brazilian friends is especially attractive to me.

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    3. Havana, Cuba

    I’ve had a strong desire to visit Havana ever since first watching Havana Nights. I’m kidding, but I do have a soft spot for any dance film. After discussing the lively locale with one of my most well-travelled friends, I am certain Havana and I would hit it off. Katherine spent a semester in Havana during her undergraduate degree, and described it as one of the most exuberant cities she’s ever visited. Not so secretly, I plan to extensively visit all the places Ernest Hemingway frequented while he penned two of his best novels. I’d even like to spend a night in the hotel where he spent his days producing the masterpiece, For Whom the Bell Tolls.

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    4. Japan 

    There are endless reasons why Tokyo is considered the greatest city in the world. Its public transport, for one, is efficient and sophisticated and it possesses more Michelin-starred restaurants than Paris! It has taken over as the fashion capital of Asia, and the skyscrapers are remarkable! I could go on, but I’ll just say as an urbanite, Tokyo has topped my ‘must-visit’ list for awhile now. I’ve also heard wonderful things about Kyoto, Osaka, Sapporo, not to mention Mount Fuji and those cherry blossoms… Needless to say, I’ll be sure to do an extensive tour of Japan when I finally get a chance to visit!

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    5. Turkey

    I’m aware that this may be a controversial addition to the list. As of late, many travellers have been hesitant to travel to Turkey given what’s happening across the border in Syria. While each traveller has a different level of tolerance for risk, it’s important to remember that Istanbul is a long way from Aleppo. I’ve been reading a lot about Turkey for one of my jobs, and appreciate all the work that’s being done to provide equal opportunities for Turkish women. There are many organizations dedicated to helping educate and send Turkish girls to school. The more I delve into my research, the more intrigued I become with this transcontinental country. I’ve known a few people who have studied in Istanbul, and it’s a hotbed for culture and history.

    I haven’t planned any trips outside North America for 2014 yet, but I will be visiting Boston, Mont Tremblant, and New Orleans in the coming months. 

    Check out my Pinterest board, Travel o f t e n to see where else I’ve been (and would like to go!)

    Where would you love to travel in 2014?

    Need more travel inspiration? Check out National Geographic’s Tours of a Lifetime.

  • Love Poem

    Love Poem

    When someone close to me dies, I’m shortly thereafter reminded of the circle of life.

    Following my grandfather’s recent passing, I vividly recall an influx of infants and young children swarming the Toronto Pearson Airport. Again, while spending a string of days and nights at my grandmother’s house, I played with a lovely little boy who innocently reminded me that when one spectacular life ends, another begins.

    The moment that touched me most profoundly occurred shortly after I arrived at my grandparents’ home. While funeral preparations were being made, I received a beautiful message from Kirsten, my close friend and bride-to-be. She asked me to read a poem at her upcoming nuptials to Steven. My eyes filled with tears and I felt a deep sense of appreciation and obligation during a time that was otherwise characterized by helplessness.

    Kirsten and Steve were married on Saturday, September 7th in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I would like to share with you the poem I read during their incredible ceremony.

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    I have this theory that before two people are united in marriage, they should: live together, spend some time apart, and most importantly, travel together. Steven and Kirsten truly epitomize this statement having moved all the way to New Zealand and in the process, setting the perfect example of what a relationship should be. I have known Kirsten since grade school, but witnessing her navigate the foreign land of New Zealand with Steve was an eye-opening experience. During our summer road trips, my younger sister, Natalie enderingly referred to them as mom and dad as we sat in the back of the station wagon, listening attentively to Steve’s life advice on everything from managing our finances, travelling the world on a shoestring, and deciding one’s profession. We all joked that this was their pre-marriage, trial period.

    I am honoured to be here today with all of Steve and Kirsten’s cherished family members and friends. I would like to share a poem that I discovered in Wellington, where the couple resided during their overseas travels and dedicate it to their New Zealand friends and flatmates who could not join us today, but who are such a large part of their journey together:

    Love Poem – Cameron Hockly

    There is nothing timid or meandering about my love for you,
    it does not head to the shop
    for a bottle of milk and a newspaper
    only to find itself in town,
    browsing at umbrellas and suit jackets.
    Although it does notice camellia trees,
    the recently pruned climbing roses.

    My love for you is not a walk in the park,
    although we may, in love, walk in the park.
    This love I have for you
    is not off the cuff, or impromptu,
    which is not to say that my love for you is rehearsal
    and performance.

    Nothing about it is calculated or expected,
    it was not written in the sky
    or the sandy fields by the beach,
    if it was written anywhere,
    it would be on the pathway
    next to the pool,
    between our bodies,
    as we lie there, drying.
    Dipping out fingers in the water
    and leaving wet notes for each other.
    Chlorine in our hair.
    Skin baking on the concrete.
    Almost warm enough to get back in.

  • Displacement and Chaos

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    I still recall my very first lecture and my very first assignment at The University of Auckland. After transferring from a practical, secure science major with abundant job prospects to an arts degree in English Literature, many people probably thought I had completely lost my mind. And who could blame them?

    However, as I sat in that large lecture theatre, a gazillion miles from home, I remember being overcome with emotion. I was in a creative writing course with hundreds of other students (both domestic and international), many of whom are probably spending their days at so-called dead end jobs, stringing together paycheck after paycheck, while our engineering and commerce peers surely have the last laugh. Nevertheless, there is something to be said about being able to write. It’s a skill that many well-educated individuals fail to possess. This article in the New York Times sums it up quite nicely: “No one has found a way to put a dollar sign on this kind of literacy, and I doubt anyone ever will. But everyone who possesses it — no matter how or when it was acquired — knows that it is a rare and precious inheritance.”

    While at home in Yorkton, I came across this exegesis I had written as part of my first creative writing assignment. We were required to assemble a portfolio of work encompassing the four genres of writing we had studied (poetry, multimedia, short fiction and screenplay). My multimedia, due to its personal relevance, never fails to reconcile my belief that I made the right decision to pursue an arts degree.

    Anyway, I’ll include my original draft. Sure, it’s not perfectly written. There are gaps. But this was my first assignment, and my justification for leaving home:

    “The experience of living abroad has substantially transformed my goals and perspective. Being a Canadian in New Zealand is simultaneously rewarding and frightening, as I aim to communicate through ten paintings (four of which are present before you now.) I have photographed (and attached images) of the six additional paintings in places that demonstrate my familiarity with displacement. They are not being presented to you in one piece (or at the same time) because they are relentlessly in transition, much like myself. I have not settled in one country, but regularly travel back home while continuing my studies at the University of Auckland. Keeping the paintings together would contradict their fundamental purpose of illustrating my longing for each country, and the chaos I endure when absent from either.

    As I embark on a lengthy journey, I hold a painting depicting Saskatchewan’s wheat fields that extend along each highway. Following twenty-four hours of travel time, I will land in Saskatoon on Saturday afternoon. Shortly after emerging from the airport, this art work will be photographed at my destination.

    The painting featuring a runway and an airplane taking flight will be photographed from outside a window at the Auckland International Airport prior to the first leg of my travel itinerary. This canvas is peering out at a world of possibility, establishing its place on this earth. Geographically, Canada and New Zealand sit exceedingly far from one another. In my heart, however, they are intimately connected. While I do not have family here, I have developed close relationships with many New Zealand citizens and fellow travellers who share my love for this place.

    The physical separation of these paintings is comparable to my personal displacement. Half of my heart will always remain in Saskatchewan, alongside my family and childhood friends. The other half belongs in New Zealand, representing my desire of not being confined to what is familiar and recognizable. The displacement began in 2009 when I initially visited New Zealand on a study abroad exchange.

    The graffiti exercise presented during tutorial inspired the use of placement and exposure in my work. I decided to photograph my paintings across two continents to demonstrate the extent to which an idea can travel. With each kilometre travelled, the paintings evolve, and develop new and exciting connotations. The mapping exercise conducted in tutorial was equally effective. It enabled me to expand on the idea of a traditional map. Scattering paintings throughout the Southern and Northern Hemispheres manifest distance and displacement on a realistic and larger scale. Additional inspiration came from Allen Say’s Grandfather’s Journey, one of my favourite pieces of children’s literature. Many of the themes present in this story, cross-cultural experiences, intergenerational relationships, and family history are personally relevant.

    Following the migration of my Ukrainian ancestors to Canada, my extended family is grounded in Saskatchewan. My love for New Zealand’s vast beauty has stirred perplexity amongst my relatives who feel resiliently connected to their homeland. While I thoroughly enjoy my visits home, I have never regretted this decision to live in another distant country.”

  • The never-ending quest for meaningful work.

    The never-ending quest for meaningful work.

    I initially began writing this post almost two months ago. This mere fact speaks volumes about my ability to endlessly ruminate on a topic (read: procrastinate) and my inability to decide on a consistent theme for this blog, or my life for that matter.

    The issue of coming into one’s profession has always been of interest to me. Increasingly so following the completion of two editorial internships with Canadian magazines.

    I am an idealist; an eternal optimist. I’ve always placed great importance on finding the right career, but as I reach my mid-twenties, I’ve realized that the perfect career does not exist. I’ve yet to find a career that truly resonates with who I am. This sheds light on the question of whether a career needs to tick all your boxes.

    I had a primary school teacher who, at the age of five, knew that she was destined to be a teacher. I have always been drawn to teaching. I started teaching dance when I was still actively studying and dreaming about a professional career. Unfortunately, even after being admitted to Canada’s only direct-entry Bachelor of Education program, (which I would have completed in French) I was still undecided. I wanted to get away and see the world, not stay in my native province for the next four years. After all, I had lived here for the entirety of my eighteen years, wasn’t that enough? My feelings were further complicated after speaking to my favourite high school teacher, who was sufficiently jaded and exasperated from her own teaching experiences. Needless to say, she advised me to consider different academic routes.

    Unfortunately, deciding one’s profession at 18 isn’t something that many of us are capable of doing. I internalized the variety of opinions that came from family members, friends, teachers (and dance teachers), coaches (and vocal coaches), guidance counselors, and pastors (okay, I’m kidding on the last one.) They all had my best interests in mind, but I still felt paralyzed and could not make a decision.

    I spent my summer performing with Saskatchewan Express, our province’s musical touring company. This experience enabled me to put off making a decision about my future until the last possible minute. Even once classes began at Minot State University, where I eventually enrolled, I was still driving back to Canada every weekend for performances.

    My point is that many high school students and even twenty-somethings feel trapped. How can an individual who doesn’t know if they’re on the right path, be expected to pursue that path full-heartedly? What’s the point of giving something your undivided attention if you cannot vocalize why you’re doing it? Sure, they know what their community expects them to do, what would make their parents the most proud, what will pay the bills, and very little about their own passions or how their skills can improve society as a whole.

  • Putting on the Fitz

    Putting on the Fitz

    “I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.”

    -F. Scott Fitzgerald

    Thursday marked the end of my editorial internship with Weddingbells magazine. It was a bittersweet last day at the office, the place where I’ve spent the past four months; the place where I thought I’d figure it all out. As it turns out, life isn’t that simple or straightforward. I was sent on my merry way with a big bag of luxury beauty products (including a gorgeous Chanel lipstick that I didn’t know how to open due to my inexperience with Chanel products.) So, regardless of my mixed emotions about my future, I will be temporarily distracted testing out some of these fabulous new products. And despite my confusion, I am thankful for this wonderfully positive experience in such a fun, lighthearted office.

    While I don’t want (read: can’t afford) to waste any time jumping into a new job, I also need to find something that relates to my strengths and passions. And with today’s ever-depressing job market, I know finding ANY job with an English degree won’t exactly be a walk in the park. I know I’m a strong writer, but I’m a better editor. I love putting words on paper in an attempt to express my mind’s innermost workings. However, what I enjoy even more is improving a piece of writing that has the potential to be amazing. This leads me to my next endeavour, which will be editing and (hopefully) publishing Nick’s mother’s first novel on Amazon! Admittedly, I have only read the first two chapters, but I already have no doubt it will be a fascinating, gripping read. It’s a piece of historical fiction and like any great novel, the first chapter will have you hooked. I won’t reveal anything else at this point, but it’s going to be GOOD.

    IN OTHER NEWS: Baz Luhrmann’s “The Great Gatsby” was released in Toronto last night! And there was no way I was waiting one more day to see my favourite American novel being put to the Hollywood test. I was introduced to Fitzgerald’s third novel in high school by my favourite English teacher. She absolutely abhorred the character of Daisy Buchanan, and could not understand my fascination with this seemingly banal and evidently careless, heartless woman. But back to Luhrmann’s film. Yes, it was gaudy and at times, tacky. Yes, it was drawn out and exhausting. And no, I wasn’t sure whether Luhrmann (who directed Romeo & Juliet and Moulin Rouge) was criticizing 1920s American consumerism or fetishing it. But I think that’s what made it such a rollercoaster ride. Regardless of its imperfections, I held my breath as Daisy and Gatsby were reunited for the first time in five years, I grimaced during every single scene that featured Myrtle, and scowled whenever Tom Buchanan spoke. And you’d better believe I cried like a little baby at the end. DiCaprio was BRILLIANT (as always) and Mulligan was just dysfunctional and vapid enough to be believable as Daisy Buchanan. Tobey Maguire, as Nick Carraway, was absolutely phenomenal, and if I wasn’t a fan of his work before, I am now. I could ramble on and dilute this post that is SUPPOSED to be about the end of my internship, however, I’ll stop and tell you to  STAY TUNED for my actual review, which I will post tomorrow!

    For now, I’ll leave you with this quote from a review by The Independent: “Leonardo DiCaprio segues with utter conviction in the title role, from the suave, semi-mythical party host to his neurotic, lovelorn alter ego and back again.”

  • Intern Nation: Part II

    Intern Nation: Part II

    As you know, I’ve been interning at Weddingbells Magazine for the past month. It’s been a fantastic experience so far, and some of my Real Weddings and blog posts have been published online. I’d love it if you checked them out, they are fun to read, even if you’re not anywhere near tying the knot:

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    A Star-Studded Wedding in Toronto, Canada

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    A Country Barn Wedding in Vineland, Ontario

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    Chocolate Wedding Desserts to Impress Your Guests

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    Savvy Save the Dates: Whimsical Ideas For Your Celebration
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    Aisle Runner Ideas For Your Ceremony